The guilt trap: do you make others feel guilty?
Guilt is a useless feeling that is detrimental to emotional health and well-being. Many people, especially women, cannot say 'no' to the requests of others without feeling guilty. And as a result they...
View ArticleHow to get rid of the mom guilt
Kinsights.com There are those moms who make everything look easy, like they have it all pulled together. And then there's us, or so we think. We run around frazzled feeling guilty because we didn't get...
View Article'Me Time' Enhances Marriages
While still single, Emily discovered something important about marriage. She had heard the part about two becoming one. The eye-opener for her was learning how to remain a vibrant individual while...
View ArticleYou Owe Me!
Entitlement is an ugly word. Most people probably don't associate entitlement with veterans. But I came home from Iraq with a healthy dose of it. Returning from the war, I was shocked at how little had...
View ArticlePersonal Power vs. Power Over Others
All of us would love to have personal power -- the power to manifest our dreams, the power to remain calm and loving in the face of fear, the power to stay centered in ourselves in the face of attack....
View ArticleWhat Defines a Successful Relationship?
In today's society, a successful relationship is usually defined by marriage, kids, a white picket fence and living happily ever after. Little girls dream of meeting their Prince Charming, getting...
View ArticleChoosing Not to Feel Guilty
As a new mum I have made a conscious decision not to feel guilty. Our mother's group midwife said in a facilitated group session that now you've had a baby you'll feel guilty for the rest of your life....
View ArticleYou Do Not Have to Be Good
You know what's difficult? Standing up for yourself and your needs. Questioning the 'should dictator' in your head. Deciding not to let false guilt boss you around. If you dare to do these things, then...
View Article27 Common Things That Prevent Our Happiness
The poet Rumi once said, "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it". The same thing could be said of happiness....
View ArticleHow to Find Your Happiness
We've all seen some version of this scene: the child at the playground, covered in ice cream, wearing a tiara. She's surrounded by fun toys, fawning parents and other happily screaming kids. Yet,...
View Article10 Things You Need to Let Go of to Find Peace
I'm surrounded by 20-somethings in my everyday life. I look at their energy, enthusiasm, and youth... overhear them talk about their hopes and dreams and alternately listen to all the angst and...
View Article4 Strategies to Deal With a Guilt Tripper
Guilt trippers are world class blamers, martyrs and drama queens. They know how to make you feel badly about something by pressing your insecurity buttons. They use guilt to manipulate so you do what...
View ArticleWhat To Tell Yourself After The Loss Of A Loved One
"Although the experience of grief in some form or another is universal, our reactions within the overall process vary widely. Newer research and my own experience tell me that, really, there are not...
View ArticleSmart Spouses Dodge 3 Relationship Traps
Road signs alert drivers to prepare for what's ahead: pedestrians crossing, a curve, or a hairpin turn. Signals also exist that warn us of possible relationship hazards that are easy to miss. So watch...
View Article38 Things I've Learned to Let Go of in 38 Years>
Last year, to celebrate another trip around the sun, I wrote a birthday blog called "37 Life Lessons in 37 Years." It was reminiscent of my life's biggest successes, "failures," learning experiences,...
View ArticleGuilt: I'm Breaking Up With You
We have all had an intimate relationship with guilt at some time or another. We all know that it pulls us in, envelops us and keeps us warm even though we know we should be running the other way. Guilt...
View ArticleIs it guilt tripping?
Domestic violence comes in many different forms. One form of domestic violence you may not be familiar with is guilt tripping. What is Guilt Tripping? Guilt tripping is a form of bullying, and...
View ArticleHow to be happy: Don't let others dictate your life
When I was 12, a kindly older relative asked me what I wanted to do when I grew up. I said I wanted to become a writer, and he visibly scoffed at the notion, telling me that writers are usually broke,...
View ArticleUnderstanding and Overcoming Our Guilt, Shame and Anxiety
Why do we human beings suffer so much from the demoralizing emotions of guilt, shame and anxiety? Over many centuries, answers have varied from our biological humors (Hippocrates) to biochemical...
View ArticleWorking mothers don’t need to feel guilt – but it can be a useful tool
Stop feeling guilty. That’s the rough take-home message – or perhaps more precisely, the message many working parents will choose to take home – from a new Harvard study which found that the daughters...
View ArticleThe Spiritual Naturalist
What you think and how you feel: it matters Tuesday, October 1, 2013 Share this: CommentsEmailPrint0 The best mask in the world will not bring true happiness. (cc) Ann (Mrs Magic), Flickr.com. The more...
View Article5 Steps for Disciplining So That Our Kids Feel Good at the End
What does a perfect child look like? Well-behaved, well-mannered, honest and thoughtful? Never dirty, unkind or angry? A perfect child is happy, rude, mischievous, helpful, stubborn, curious,...
View ArticleSurviving the Emotional Chaos of Grief
If someone had told me, 10 years ago, that I would be writing about grief, I wouldn't have believed them. At the age of 38, after years of struggles, my life had finally fallen into place. I was happy...
View ArticleThe 3 Steps To Emotional Freedom
Step 1: Identify Your Negative Legacy Emotions Many people live amid so much guilt, shame or anxiety that they become like fish that have been swimming in polluted water since escaping their eggs. A...
View Article5 Steps to Letting Go of the Past>
Another year is almost over, and a fresh, new one is just around the corner. The past is behind us now, and with it goes its triumphs and its trials, its errors and its learnings. One thing is certain:...
View ArticleI feel duty-bound to spend Christmas with my mother but I don’t want to
I dislike my selfish brother who gets to spend Christmas where he wants, but I’m always expected to celebrate it with my mum...
View ArticleI Forgive Me
When I first decided to go on the journey to inner discovery, I made a list of things that I needed to do. On the top of the list was stop being angry at others, forgive others that have hurt me, stop...
View Article7 Ways to Stop Doing and Start Being
There is a madness in men and women today and it's spilling over to our children too. This madness is our constant need for change - with our relationships, our jobs, our possessions, our education,...
View ArticleSigns That You May Need To Set Healthier Boundaries
I recently called a woman in my town to discuss some issues about a community event. She picked up the phone and was immediately angry and sharp. She went on to scream at me, call me names, judge my...
View ArticleGuilt and Regret (Epilepsy Foundation of America)
(Source: Epilepsy Foundation of America) Have you ever met anyone who does not have some guilt or regret? Guilt (as defined by Wikipedia) is a 'cognitive or an emotional experience that occurs when a...
View Article10 guilts every woman lives with
According to a recent study, 96 per cent women feel guilty at least once a day, having a destructive effect on their health. Here are 10 ways to deal with this, that could leave you happy and...
View ArticleTips for Dealing With a Difficult Person
All of us are forced to deal with a difficult person from time to time. He or she can be almost anyone -- a spouse, in-law, other relative, friend, coworker, or boss. The perpetrator might even be you...
View ArticleIt's Not a 'Mommy' Problem, It's a 'Guilty' Problem
It was only 10:00 a.m. on a Monday morning and I had already felt guilty more than 15 times. My guilt gene is not even particularly well-developed, but apparently it was still in my DNA. For starters,...
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